During my 35-year career as a psychotherapist, I became a bit notorious in regard to what I called "The Internal Tyranny" and, especially, for the highly novel therapeutic approach that I invented to help my clients liberate themselves from it. I called this unique experiential approach "Provocative Psychodrama."
What I term "The Internal Tyranny"--or IT for short--is simply the entire vast array of negative (i.e., unskillful) automatic habits that we start acquiring in very early childhod and which tend to sabotage our happiness and personal effectiveness/success to varying degrees throughbout our adult lives.
These habit patterns go far beyond just our behavioral habits. The habits that trip us up most insidiously are mainly at the level of perception, thinking, feeings, and attitudes. They generally operate outside of our awareness and basically tend to cause us, in our adult relationships, to unconsciously replicate negative, emotionally painful experiences from our early childhood.
A simple aphorism I coined in an effort to capture the essence of this highly lawful, self-defeating propensity is: "As in childhood, so in adulthood."
That is, insofar as we run on automatic, so to speak, it's very likely that we will inevitably recapitulate some of these unskillful childhood themes. Not infrequently, in fact, this may happen over and over, much like a needle stuck in a particular groove of a phonograph record from the past.
About a century ago, Sigmund Freud observed this phenomenon in some of his clients, calling it the "repetition compulsion," but he did not seem to recognize it as being as common as it actually seems to be. My personal clinical observations with many hundreds of clients throughout my career convinced me that it is actually--at least to some degree--nearly universal.
Perhaps the most tragic aspect of these automatic negative habit patterns is that we tend to identify with them strongly and and construe them as part of our intrinsic personal identity, instead of recognizing them simply as impersonal habit patterns that operate much like software programs in a computer.
Not surprisingly, then, we actually tend to devote a lot of energy promoting and defending them in various ways. The key to getting free from these habits, therefore, is not only to recognize them for what they are--i.e. as simply a collection of automatic unskillful habits that we happened to fall heir to in large part during the innocence of childhood--but actually to disidentify, or decouple, from them as fully as possible.
Provocative Psychodrama is one very powerful way of doing so. It entails a structured, highly experiential therapeutic process wherein the therapist strongly and blatantly PERSONIFIES the client's Internal Tyranny and invites him/her to challenge it as fully and strongly as s/he chooses. This process typically and quickly becomes quite emotionally intense and tends to generate major emotional insights into, as well as marked disidentification from, the habit patterns that the client has previously considered to be part of his/her personal identity.
In some ways, however, the practice of mindfulness potentially offers an even more effective means of decoupling from the Internal Tyranny. It's also a method that anyone can utilize personally--at least to some degree--with or without the formal assistance of a teacher/coach/therapist.
By its very nature, mindfulness entails shifting into pure awareness and then observing, moment to moment, all of one's constantly changing experience, both internal and external.
This "formal practice" of mindfulness, as it is usually called, involves staying aware in this way over increasingly long periods of time. It's not uncommon, for example, in mindfulness retreats for practitioners to spend 12 to 16 hours a day in mindful awareness, observing objectively and dispassionately the endless array of mind/body phenomena that spontaneously arise into awareness.
This process, which is much like turning on a bright light in a previously darkened room, reveals the full spectrum of mental phenomena, including those that are obviously unskillful.
As just one small example, most people who engage in this process become clearly aware of how the mind, much like a dog chewing on a bone, tends to dwell on all manner of painful past experiences and, likewise, repetitively projects endless unpleasant future scenarios.
This process, when it is carried out persistently and consistently over time, gradually gives rise to deep and transformative insight--so much so that this formal mindfulness practice is most commonly referred to as "Insight Meditation."
The most central feature of this insight is that these internal habit patterns come to be recognized very clearly--not as one's "true identity," but rather in much the same way that various external natural patterns are recognized as being completely impersonal.
It is in this sense, then, that mindfulness provides a way to "externalize the problem." And once any problem is recognized as being "out there," so to speak, it tends to become much easier to deal with. Once it is recognized as being much like an external "enemy," so to speak, instead of as "myself," attachment to it tends to drop away spontaneously. This is much like letting go of a load of garbage that one has become personally attached to and has been hauling around throughout all of one's adult life.
Shinzen Young, one of my mindfulness teachers, likes to refer to this powerful decoupling process as "watching it to death."
In his recent book, The Mindful Brain, Dr. Daniel Siegel offers a clever acronym to represent this key process, utilizing the name of the well-known Jedi Master from Star Wars fame--YODA: "You Observe and Decouple Automaticity."
On this note, it's probably not too surprising that I independently conferred this same name, YODA, upon my beloved German Shorthair Pointer mascot. He's definitely the epitome of highly focused awareness and provides me with a constant reminder to be mindful.
Hopefully, this information will help to clarify the brief initial introduction to mindfulness that I have offered in the following video:
